My god... what have I done?! Nooooo! So keeping my settler and not founding my 2nd city a few minutes before posting this was the right thing to do all along. All the stress I caused myself for thinking I'd been wasting weeks worth of building and research in my 2nd city was for naught. So now my only option for realizing my hope of leaving Tor Carrock behind completely is to...
1.) Exodus my capital off to somewhere far away where I want to end up with my capital to an empty 7 food square. ( I don't want to Tenaril it now as a 5 food)
2.) Spend weeks again researching up Exodus tech on my new blunder city I just settled, and then use exodus on to move it nearer to my capital's location eventually.
And basically that's my only choice right now correct? So would it be reasonable for me to just Tenaril my capital (along with it's 5 food) to the general region I decide to move to so that when I do exodus to a vacant 7 food square I don't spend weeks traveling at 5sq/sec? Presuming I decide to move to say... The Wastes or somewhere along the edges of the map?
I guess the only other use Tenarils has for me at this point would be to save it for later in case for some odd reason I changed my mind and wanted to teleport my capital to the opposite side of the map... seems unlikely I'd ever want to do that though, but in a few years... who knows.
Thank you so much for all of your help today and yesterday Rill. When you wrote "clear your mind completely" my headache went away instantly, then changed to heartache after realizing what I've now done. I thought it was so incredibly strange when I was persuaded weeks ago that to exodus you could only make another city that you had the capital by moving to/on it and making the old capital the 2nd city. Made no sense at first, but then I somehow managed to convince myself that they were right and I was just mis-reading/interpreting the guides. :(
I can see now why there is so much effort to clarify this topic and how someone could just decide to rage quit after doing something so catastrophically moronic as I have done. My first reaction was "oh god, I'll just abandon the whole damn thing and start over "properly"..", but then after reading your explanation I realize I can at least correct the error... in time.