Ten Square

you easily claim 3 rows around your town when you get big, so if a second town is within 5 you or he gets stopped at 2, and maybe you want 4 rows then you need more, and some for some reason wants 5 rows and so to make sure there will be no problems later 10sq away.

but ofcourse some just want to have "their" land aswell

Not meaning to be rude, but not everything in the game will be spoon fed.  The "newbie" ring is one of those tidbits that newbies need to ferret out.  I don't believe it's officially disclosed anyplace.

As for why the newbies get stuck together but outside that area there are informal rules.  I don't know that there is a comprehensive answer to that.  The newbie thing is the way it is because the devs made it that way.  People that move out of the newbie ring obviously do so to get away from the crowding so that would explain why those players have established a different rule.  The "10 square rule" (which everyone doesn't agree to) may be related to the fact that you can not exodus your city within 10 squares of a non-aligned (NAP or confed between the alliances of the players owning the moving city and the city being moved near) city.  The devs may have set up the newbie ring because it does allow for "real" players to make choices about where their cities go (without crowding or newbies on most of the map) but pulls newbies instantly into the game without first having to decide where to put their city.  But I can only guess at the minds of the creators.

My question was neither objecting to the ten square rule nor complaining about it. In fact, I wasn't even asking why it existed. I simply wondered how new players would know they were in a "newbie ring" and would have many, many new neighbors showing up on a daily basis if they stayed. You see, in the newbie ring, you could suddenly get a new neighbor two squares away. That seems odd when there is such a strict "ten square" policy. That was what I was asking about. I didn't know anything about a newbie ring when I started, so had no idea how to look outside of it for spacier accommodations. Of course, I have decided to stay, so, for me, it isn't an issue. I'm just concerned about other new players not knowing about the newbie ring.

 No, I comply religiously to the rules and guidelines of my alliance, and always will. 

Ryelle has a number of cities in the new player ring, and newbs spawn adjacent to one of them from time to time.  Her view is that it makes it easier to send resources.

If a new player is experiencing harassment because of the location of their spawn, then they should speak up and seek advice, either from their alliance if they have one or from a trusted vet.

Naturally it behooves some new players to strongly consider moving away from their spawn location, especially if they have a neighbor who makes it know they would rather the new player be elsewhere.  There are few advantages to having a city that is completely surrounded by the sovereignty of another city, for example.

A balance between the needs of existing players and new players is needed.