To be clear, HUGcr is a smaller alliance involved in just such a dispute with a larger alliance. I don't honestly think that HUGcr should get the square just because they are smaller or were there first. Shockingly enough, Ryelle agrees with me. We are negotiating in good faith with the larger alliance, but at the same time we recognize that at some point we might have to fight for it -- and we might lose. Hopefully the result will be that people have fun and end up respecting each other.
I tend to be a socialist (which is why my brothers always beat me at Monopoly). I believe that cooperation and collaboration are ultimately the winningest strategy. At the same time, I think there's a place for healthy competition.
I don't know what the "right answer" is in all this. Maybe there are as many right answers as there are squares on the map.
I do think Illy will be healthier in the long run if people could compete in some way for particular squares without having a bunch of drama over who is good and who is bad and who is right and who is wrong. I think it would be fun to have a match of strategy and armies in which no one's city is at stake.
Maybe the key is for the smaller alliances to line up a coalition that will allow them to compete with the larger alliance.
I don't have the answers, but I do think that the way forward is one in which we emphasize respect and having fun, and whenever possible development of win-win-win-win solutions (since many times there are more than two parties involved in a potential conflict).