Having wars can be fun. I have never said differently. What bothers me is the meta-game that demands that people lie to make up reasons for war. And that really is a game that is completely dictated by us and who we are. We make the rules in the metagame, we can make it fun or not.
So there are two things really, the game and the metagame. Illy is a rich world that can be played in a variety of ways. The metagame is equally rich.
In the game we are dwarves and elves playing with pixels.
In the metagame we are human beings, and how we behave in the metagame may indeed reflect who we are.
There are things that I would find acceptable or unacceptable to do in the metagame. This is based partly on my own personal code of conduct and partly on what I have observed other people enjoy.
I think a lot of people have been confusing the game and the metagame. The game is where we siege people cities. The metagame is where we pretend we've done it for a good reason.
When people are talking about actions reflecting what people are like, they are reflecting on the metagame. There are those who claim that their actions in the metagame do not reflect who they are. This very claim reflects something about who that person is and how they see the world.