Myr,
Berberos was a ~N~ member and when he was being attacked, nobody from ~N~ supported him. (acc to a post from Sunstorm). Not even a small army of 20 militia from anyone to show solidarity? How sad was that?
And now StJill, StJude and Mojono has launched attacks against one of your member. I would think any normal alliance would take it as an affront to their sovereignty. Instead of defending your member with nail and teeth, you are leaving him alone to deal with it.
It is bad enough that you beg before your enemies. It is worse that you would let your member fight alone against three at a time. You are defeated even before the battle started. What worth does your diplomatic talks have when you have lost all your respect? If I were in a confederate alliance of yours, I would have felt insulted at the lack of faith you have showed in our friendship.
You do have powerful confederations. I suggest you ask help from your confederates. Atleast you will get to know how many of them are real friends. Even if you do not wish to be aggressive, your friends could reinforce the cities under attack. Dont let anyone bully you. Make your enemies realize that an army sent against an ~N~ member is a dead army!
Good luck!